Shopping can be a drag for some and fun for others but for someone who is addicted to shopping it is neither. The compulsive shopper experiences all the general symptoms associated with addiction.
People who shop for the "high" it gives them suffer from obsessive
thoughts about spending when they are not actually acting it out. Their
behavior when shopping has a compulsive quality to it. It feels
uncontrollable. Their failure to control their spending impacts
detrimentally on all other aspects of their lives.
Compulsive shoppers believe that shopping will make them feel better.
They often shop when they feel depressed, lonely, bored or angry.
Shopping offers a palliative for their suffering. While they are
spending they experience the kind of euphoria that is similar to the
"high" induced by drugs.
While they are on this "high" they tend to spend outrageous amounts of
money on things that they don't need. Their closets are full of items
still bearing their tags. The "high" comes with the spending, not with
the enjoyment of what is purchased.
Because they lose their ability to buy within their means they are
constantly in financial trouble and often dogged by collection
agencies. When the "high" of shopping dissipates they are left with the
guilt and shame so characteristic of the addiction cycle. The guilt and
shame may contain the urge for a short while but ultimately it leads to
the need to alleviate the bad feelings through another bout of spending.
Relationships, jobs and financial obligations suffer as the uncontrolled spending leads the addict deeper and deeper into debt.
There are a number of established organizations that provide help and
support for those struggling with a shopping addiction. Compulsive
spending is often coupled with other addictive behaviors so working
with the right kind of professional help along with the support of a
self-help group is the most effective treatment.